How much does it cost to spot, threaten, hit, before you decide to end? Jonathan Destin suffered intimidation of classmates for six years before self-immolation, February 8, 2011. He was 16 years old. The boy from the north burned with 72% for three months in an artificial coma and underwent twenty interventions. He survived, writes a book in 2013, "Sentenced to kill me".
Monday evening at 9 pm TF1 takes his story during a special evening Harry Roselmack presents around the TV movie & # 39; The day I burned my heart & # 39; at 9 p.m. and the documentary & # 39; Harassment at school, the Golgotha of Jonathan "at 11 o'clock in the evening The TV movie describes the intimidation – one in ten students is a victim – the shame, the consternation of the faculty and the parents are confronted with the suicide attempt of the overweight student, without judging, the fiction is placed on the side of Jonathan's mother who investigates to understand and on the part of the authors of intimidation, between questions and regrets. "We wanted to challenge the viewers for the theme: your child can be bothered without telling you, but he can also pass in the camp of the stalkers not to be bothered," says Yvan Sadik, the producer.
When the writers have met Jonathan and his family, the fiction departs from reality by imagining a Senior Education Adviser (CPE), played by a formidable Michaël Youn, who is committed to bringing the truth to the fore and to mobilize. "At that time, the faculty was less aware of bullying, and no one took a step towards Jonathan's family, except for one phone call, says the producer, and this fictional character of the CPE embodies what should have happened. Jonathan, now 23 years old, is on the set in Strasbourg and has seen the drama as a preview with his family.
How do you welcome this TV movie project that is freely adapted from your book?
I thought he could help make things happen. This is an opportunity to reach millions of young people.
How did you react by discovering it?
They are a lot of emotions because it is my story. And that makes things up. I could see what my parents had experienced when I was in a coma. I knew that they had suffered a lot from what I had suffered and from my suicide attempt. Especially because I told them about what I had lived on the day I woke up. I had just taken one of my sisters into trust, who had gone to those who bothered me. The next day I was hit even harder. Afterwards I did not dare to talk about it to anyone.
In fiction your mother asks why you did not warn her.
I never dared because I was ashamed of what I was going through at school. Especially in relation to my father: he is a strong man and he did not want to let himself go. During my 4th year I lost a lot of weight, 15 kg in two months, when I started racketering. I only ate in the morning. It was a call for help. My parents asked my sisters what they knew and they thought I wanted to please a friend. My mother interviewed the school nurse who replied that it was not anorexia.
Can this TV movie encourage teen victims to come forward?
Yes. It can help break the silence. Intimidation is now severely punished by the law. More and more teachers, supervisors, directors are being trained. We have to warn an adult, a loved one or go to the police, defend himself by talking so that it stops.
And what about parents, including those of potential stalkers?
It can happen to anyone. And they are also parents to watch out for. Sometimes it does not only come from the child. I met a teenager whose mother and father were fighting each other. The child who sees his parents fighting, however, can do the same at school. The film will also serve many stalkers. For some it is almost normal to be. They do not realize the consequences. We have to stop that.
Do you feel that you have opened a path by telling your story?
Yes. The more we raise awareness, the more testimonies, the more we can put an end to the intimidation. The book was like a first therapy. The TV movie is a second. It is constructive for me as long as I can help other people. It's a performance every time.
Can we go further so that students are no longer bothered?
Posters at schools, teacher training, meetings with parents, that's fine. But there should be one in every institution, not just one in ten.
Do you intervene in schools?
I tried school with my mother a few years ago. But it was too early: teenagers saw me stressed. I recently went to teachers and it interested me. I have always told my mother that one day I will take over. But going back to a class with students is difficult for me. I still have a good way to go.
What are you dreaming about?
I dream of working, getting my driver's license, having my independence. I was very attracted to cooking and baking. With my health problems it is complicated. This remains a hobby. I would like to become a computer specialist! I will soon be upgrading because I am in the middle of the 3 schoole professional without the patent. I have to learn the basics again. Mathematics is very complicated: only for an addition I think more. There, I pass evaluations to know where I am. I have the will. I am getting better and better.