The big questions of love: Why can not he understand her grief?

The question: Since Rosa and Jan are a couple, Rosa's mother is the common enemy. She is outraged that Jan was once married and has to look after two children from this marriage. She threatens to disinherit her daughter, and does not appear at the wedding party. After this scandal, Rosa breaks with her mother. That's how it goes for many years; then Rosa's mother suffers a stroke, falls into a coma and dies in the hospital. Rosa is very concerned, she is crying and pondering, discussing with Jan, if she might be partly to blame for the stroke and what she could have done to prevent it. "I do not understand that," says Jan. "She just made us difficult, we had said goodbye to her for a long time!"